because s/he's always unhappy

My drive home from the daycare was eventful.

My boys found invitations to a birthday party dated January 2017 in their messy daycare cubbies.  The parents of the child having the birthday (henceforth birthday child) split up at some time unknown to me.  I asked my boys whether the birthday child is a happy child.  They both answered "No! s/he's always unhappy." They were emphatic for four year olds describing sadness.  They said that birthday child longs to have his parents together and this is why George thinks there is sadness:   "Birthday child wants to live with both parents," explained Henry.   I'm proud that the twins have empathy.

As we went on in the car George explained how he wanted his mommy and daddy together:  "I would be sad if we weren't (the family) together.  We should live in the same house."  I'm not particularly weepy but his fear touched a nerve.  I explained to George and to Henry that both of birthday child's parents love birthday child very much.  The relationship dissolved between birthday child's parents.  It does not mean that each parent does not love birthday child.  The twins intertwined togetherness and love to the point where parental separation became an issue of parents loving children.  How can I not love my kids?  I have to listen about robots in my safe and reliable, hybrid family car while refereeing fights about whether 'only good guys get presents at Christmas.'  It was easy to see where issues about parental separation get their start.  As tyrannical and barbaric as they often are, my little men are fragile.  It was surprising to see them afraid for something in the realm of possibility, instead of fearing monsters or creaking floor boards.